Defensiveness, anger and embarrassment: the negative reactions when one is catcalled.
As much as I love summer nights and longer days, there’s one aspect in particular that I don’t look forward to: shorts.
I see self portraiture is a revolutionary act of self love.
In a way, we are detached because we always identified as Singaporeans.
I have found magic in R E V E A L I N G ones true nature.
The modern day equivalent of sticking post-its and cards to your mirror.
Self-Love is the greatest love story.
I stood, my tummy jutting out in my Speedo two-piece, and stared at my reflection in the mirror, zeroed in on one thing: a huge pimple right between my eyebrows. Big and red and painful. I squeezed the ever-loving shit out of that thing, but to no avail: I had only angered the beast.
Meyers is the founder and CEO of the be.come project, a holistic, online, workout experience with accessible twenty-five minute routines you can do with Meyers themselves. I had a chance to speak with Meyers over the phone and dig a little deeper into creating the company, and who they are as an activist and entrepreneur.
I’ll squash myself down in size
to make sure there is room for him.
A constant argument that I’ve had with virtually every close friend of mine occurs whenever I love a photo of them that they hate, or vice versa. I once posted a picture I loved of a friend on Facebook, and she rang me within five minutes to demand I take it down. I decided to explore the difference between how we see ourselves and how others in our lives see us.
Underneath the all the others is a skin she never has to put on- And never gets to take off no matter how much she wants to. She was born with it- This one is the foundation. Already precisely tailored.
“I know that I've got big ears and a big forehead and that my hair sticks up. But I'm happy with myself. I'm not necessarily trying to win a beauty pageant here.” -Clay Aikem
I learn now- the gestures of care, the hand between legs and the slow kisses of selfish tenderness.
She others herself
in the mirror
a ritual of scrutiny -
what should be scraped off,
what sticks to the fingers.
To feel ugly
Stripped of all armour
I decided to watch the new show because I wanted to see how it would portray a female plus-sized character -- a type of character who is often poorly represented or not represented at all. I wanted to know if this film was going to do her justice.
While I tout body positivity as much as the next person, sometimes we have bad days. It’s hard work unlearning years of society teaching us we’re only valuable for one thing.
There are signs against weight gain all around us- specifically on social media, pushing the narrative that you can only be happy when you have lost pounds. Looking through Instagram influencers’ pages, ads for detox supplements (which are usually unregulated and harmful) show up on numerous posts. These companies continuously sell the idea that a woman will only reach her full potential if she decides to diet. That losing weight is the first step to finding success.
The way I see it, in today’s society, the parts of the female body have three definitions: the real scientific dictionary one, the one riddled with societal expectations, and some third body-positive definition that we don’t really talk about.
Today, living a makeup-free year still remains a defining period in my life. However, after my makeup-free experience, watching the 2016 political climate in action, and holding my first job in a corporate setting, I came to the conclusion that beauty standards are not the only expectations for females that need to change- in beauty, politics, workplaces, and so much more. Make Muse, an online news and media site and print publication, is a continuation of Makeupless Maura and as well as a response to these experiences.
This self-portrait series highlights different insecurities and flaws that should be seen as pieces of art instead of something to be ashamed of. Each image represents a different “flaw” society tells us we need to change or cover up. Instead of hiding these “flaws,” embrace them.
The body positivity movement has made girls feel more comfortable with themselves and with sending photos of themselves, admiring their beauty and unique radiance. But I also believe that people often try to tear confident women down. Many men still feel entitled to critique and belittle the women in their lives. Being a feminist means respecting a woman’s vulnerability and honoring the trust she has placed in you if and when she decides to send you a racy snap. Self-love is the sexiest thing of all.
Learning to love yourself often comes through self-reflection- it can be through the form of writing in a journal, creating art, or speaking with a friend. Author Lidija Jurovich’s self-reflection love letter helped her learn and think more about how she thought about her body when she was younger and how different her mindset is now.