Ah, self-care. Disclaimer: I’m not a therapist, and I can only speak from my own experience. But in my experience, when the topic of self-care emerges in conversation, most of the suggestions revolve around doing a face mask, taking a bath, or binge-watching a series on Netflix. All of these activities are lovely and I do recommend partaking in them, but they do not offer long-term solutions to stress or accurately depict what self-care is really about. What do I do after I’ve rewatched the same television series multiple times or my skin prunes up from the bath or I run out of face masks?
Think of yourself as a pie. (I prefer blueberry.) The pie is divided into slices, and as the maker of the pie you have control over the size of each one. Hopefully, you have gathered by now that this dessert is a metaphor for life. One section of the pie might consider your interpersonal relationships, another section for physical appearance, another for your talents and hobbies, and another for everyday or work-related obligations, to name a few. You can tell if a pie is good based on how much effort and care was put into baking it. It wouldn’t make sense for a baker to put all of their time and energy into 1/4 of the pie and ignore the quality of the rest. This is how I choose to think about self-care. It’s about tending to each part of yourself, and acknowledging when some sections need a little more care than others. When all is said and done you can have your pie and eat it, too.
Here are a few legit, helpful, non-bullshit ways to practice self care that actually help.
2. Honesty- With people you love and with yourself.
3. Physical Movement - Moving in a way that is motivated by wanting to feel good, not look good.
4. A good cry, then a good laugh
5. Self-reflection: Think of a few things you like about yourself – there’s gotta be at least one!
6. Remove toxic people from your social media feed, and add useful ones
(this is effective in real life, too!)
Examples of positive instagram accounts to follow:
Jameela Jamil (@jameelajamilofficial): Actress, activist and self-proclaimed “feminist-in-progress” who is contributing to the body positivity movement with her @iweigh initiative that highlights beauty beyond physical form.
Lizzo (@lizzobeeating): Rapper, hip hop artist, and self-love activist. Most of her songs are about loving herself for who she is – it’s hard to listen to her music and not feel great.
The Blurt Foundation (@theblurtfoundation): Nonprofit organization that’s dedicated to creating humorous and helpful content for people dealing with depression.
The Lily (@thelilynews): Publication from The Washington Post, named after the first newspaper written by women. It’s a great platform to stay informed about public issues from a feminist perspective.
7. Most importantly, acknowledge what “health” means for you .
(and know it won’t look the same for everyone).
By Maddie Rizzo.
Both sides of the political spectrum miss the fact that sex is fun- and reproductive rights should be seen that way too. I noticed a few months ago that common contraceptives resemble candy in some ways. Perhaps if contraceptives were seen in the same light-hearted manner as candy, there wouldn’t be stigma, debate, or denial with regard to obtaining them or protesting against laws that limit access to them.
Ladies, summer is officially here. I’s time to have at least one hand on sunscreen and one eye on the nearest shady area at all times – this is not a drill. Say your prayers to Rihanna or whoever you believe in that we make it out of this one alive.
And while I absolutely look forward to legally ordering a glass of prosecco at dinner like a real grown-up lady, my impending birthday has also made me stop and reflect on some of the few nuggets of wisdom I have acquired over the last two decades
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One might think the goal of a lingerie company would be to sell lingerie. But it seems Victoria’s Secret is more focused on selling an ideal image of beauty to its consumer rather than quality bras. Unfortunately, whether Razek prefers it or not, the straight, cisgender, leggy and thin white woman does not represent the majority of the United States population
In today’s era of reckoning, strength, and empowerment, it is important to remember the generations of powerful women who fought for equality and contributed to the victories that we have captured, as well as those that we will continue to pursue.
This self-portrait series highlights different insecurities and flaws that should be seen as pieces of art instead of something to be ashamed of. Each image represents a different “flaw” society tells us we need to change or cover up. Instead of hiding these “flaws,” embrace them.
Femininity and the expression of the feminine has been confusingly (and sometimes misguidedly) reflected in our society, its image ricocheting across surfaces of different textures and layers with different purposes--sometimes empowering, sometimes demeaning, sometimes both? We examine the complicated relationship behind feminine power and its intention.
Illustrator Mary Sutton notes that putting yourself out there and speaking your mind can be difficult, especially as a woman. Exposing her work, an extension of herself, to others has always been something that she’s especially struggled with. In an era where all our lives are available online, however, everything we do is trackable and therefore judge-able. Successes and failures can be broadcast with equal permanence.
Designer Olivia Jimenez’s series is meant to point to women in history while cementing them around us. In so doing, she hopes to remove the boundaries of the historical figure by making them as fluid and resilient as the sky or sea or the natural world at large.
Street harassment is a prevalent issue for women and young girls in every society. In one survey, 65% of women in the United States reported being harassed on the street. Mary Sutton depicts street harassment through the common phrase, “You Should Smile More” with a series of drawings.