Ok. Soooo we are approaching “that” time of the year.
The weather is getting chilly, the leaves are painted to the toasted color of gold, orange, and red, and Starbucks’ pumpkin spice latte fills the air with smell of cinnamon and pumpkin. You best friends is telling you about her new boyfriend, your cousins are getting engaged, and everyone around you seems to be unavailable. And suddenly you get this chill within your bones and realize it's CUFFING or COUPLING SEASON (depending how you want to look at it)!
But being single is not the worst thing. Like, some of us just want to drink hot chocolate and eat snacks while binge watching Harry Potter.
So, listen up bishes- I am here to lay out some serious truth and I have some strong, feminist, empowering, and independent women backing me up. I hope we together can knock the truth that YOu Is SmaRt, YoU is StroNG, and YoU is BeauTiFuL who don’t need no man into your head.
*Starts playing single lady*
F: “I think I don’t have a boyfriend cause I’m too loud”
V: “Well… in this case you don’t need him because…”
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie: "Of course I am not worried about intimidating men. The type of man who will be intimidated by me is exactly the type of man I have no interest in."
Be yourself because you do not need to be validated by anyone else. No one should define themselves through anybody else’s eyes.
F: “Is it because I am not attractive enough?”
V: “Just walk away casue…”
Erin McKean: "You don't have to be pretty. You don't owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner ... Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked 'female.'"
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and you can be both beauty and brain to people that truly loves you.
F: “I just don’t think I’m good enough”
V: “You being you is plenty because…”
Michelle Obama: "There is no limit to what we, as women, can accomplish.”
You are always enough and quite frankly life’s a b*itch and you've got to go out and kick ass
All in all, you get the point. You don’t need a man to validate yourself, you don’t need to change yourself to please anyone, and more importantly, you don’t need anyone because “I am too intelligent, too demanding, and too resourceful for anyone to be able to take charge of me entirely. No one knows me or loves me completely. I have only myself”― Simone de Beauvoir